For whatever reasons, that song is going through my head and I CAN'T.GET.IT.OUT. Besides that, it has nothing to do with this post.
Now that I have THAT out of the way, and even though the song is still in my head, I thought I'd ramble a bit, with some thoughts that are going through my head.
- It really feels good to be able to cook dinner again, and eat like a real family. I've missed that and find that I'm enjoying actually being able to plan a meal, and carry it through. One thing I love to do is make things up as I go along. It starts with the meat, and I build the dinner around that. What do I have in my fridge? What's in the pantry? The great thing about my husband is that he LOVES my experiments. Chickie, on the other hand, develops mysterious illnesses that suddenly make her stomach hurt. But she's never too sick for ice cream. Sound familiar? Speaking of having the opportunity to eat as a family (woohoo June Cleaver!), my husband just got a "Help me, my computer has fallen and can't get up" phone call from a neighbor. Being the neighborhood IT God, he gets alot of those calls. It's really not a problem. The dinner will be ready for him when he gets home. I'll get the kids fed, and bathed, and when he gets home, I'll lovingly serve him up his food, and then leave him in the dust to go watch American Idol with the girls.
- Speaking of my husband, our anniversary was yesterday. Nineteen years people. Nineteen years. We really didn't do anything special for it as it was a school/work night but it was enjoyable just the same. I got some beautiful flowers, and a card that was so romantic, I had to check to see if it was really my husband that was sitting across from me at the dinner table. We'll most likely go out to dinner this weekend, if things work out, but either way, it was a most enjoyable day.
- I have a question for you. Why is it that when you get a package of something, which has a "tear here" instruction on it, you can never "tear here" and end up getting a pair of scissors or a knife to open up the package. And WHY do the people who make picture frames, put the price sticker on the glass? It's just something for you to ponder and if you have any answers, let me know. I just thought I would throw that in to see if you were paying attention.
- There is a young boy, who likes to hang out with Meelie, that I am having trouble with. His parents are basically non-existent (I will leave it at that) and he lives with his grandparents. In general, he is a pretty good kid but something that happened about two weeks ago, has broken my trust with him. I honestly don't know how I'm going to handle it. His actions caused two other boys to get into alot of trouble with their parents, and have put a strain on Meelie's relationship with them. It hurts to see it, but I'm not sure how to handle it. I put a stop to her hanging out with him for a bit, but have lifted the restrictions somewhat. She was not involved in this incident in any way, shape or form (thank you Lord), but in a round about way, she has been affected by it. I'm not sure whether I need to talk to the parent's of the other two boys involved, to find out if they are not allowed to play with Meelie any more or not. I believe it's most likely caused by the fact that they really don't want their kids playing with this child, and the kids really don't want to hang out with him any more. On the one hand, I would like to tell her that she can't play with him anymore, but on the other hand, I need to trust her to a certain extent He's not a bad kid, he's just lonely and basically unsupervised. His mother is worseless in my book, because as far as she is concerned, whatever her son says is the Gospel. I have NEVER wanted to slap someone in my life before, but this woman comes close. I feel for the boy, I care for him, and my heart goes out to him because he really has no adult to turn to. He has no one to teach him about actions and consequences, and he has become an adept liar. As much as I would like to, and that it would make my life easier, I am not at the point where I can turn my back on him. I just don't know how to deal with it. Do you have any thoughts?
That's about all I have to say for tonight. I need to finish getting dinner ready, and then do the bedtime routine. I live such an exciting life, I know.
I'm off to get everyone ready for the finale of American Idol. Who will be voted off this week? This should be interesting.
Comments
Let's see. Your post starts off with having dinner as a family like June Clever... then progresses to a troubled and troubledsome kid with no structure...
Would it be a good idea to combine those two facets?
Have him sit down at your table with your family to expose him to how civilized people behave... or at least invite him over for ice cream sometimes.
I'm sure this isn't what you want to hear. But how about giving it a thought. June Clever did have Eddie Haskel, the creep, at her table often... Too often!
Posted by: john cowart at May 23, 2007 6:22 AM
I can't say that I have any advice for you, but I have a few observations:
Meelie doesn't need to hang out with kids who'll teach her bad habits (like lying) but Mr. Cowart above has a point - maybe this kid needs a friend like your daughter to be a good influence on him. Meelie also needs to know or learn about guilt-by-association - why some kids might not want to play with her anymore because of her friendship with this kid, but she also needs to learn how to be a good friend, and that sometimes friendship has its consequences.
This has the potential of being a good learning experience for Meelie, 'cause no matter what happens with him, she'll learn something!
Posted by: bob at May 23, 2007 10:34 AM
I'm with Bob n John on this one Moogie although I know how this kinda feels. El nephew's next door neighbours kid / brat!* is all sweetness and light when he wants to be will try to cause trouble for my nephew if possible in fact maybe moving house because of said kid / brat!*. That said at least his parents are around (even if it is in 2 different places). Someone has to draw the line somewhere, I can see your dilemma. I'd say this the trust you he'd built up with you and Mellie is gone and it needs to be re-established somehow maybe some kinda of get together is in order - I don't know. All I do know is trust is hard to come by and so easily broken especially when lies . half truths and the like are involved, been there, seen it happen, still picking up the freaking pieces now.
**hugs to all of you (even the IT god)**
Posted by: Gopher at May 23, 2007 1:22 PM
