After returning from Blogher, Zoot posted her own set of questions in regards to Mommybloggin. Below is my response.
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Do your kids know about your blog? If they're too young to know, do you plan to keep it open to them as they get older?
Yes, both of my girls know about my blog. At times they participate in it by guest blogging, being roving photographers, or posting for pictures. If I had a nickel for every time they said "Mom, you totally have to blog about this," I'd be a rich woman by now.
- If so - do you worry they may get embarrassed later? What would you do if they asked you to stop writing about them? What would you do if they wanted you to take it down all together?
I'm careful about what I post about. I do not post anything private, or what I consider to be private. If I think it's a sensitive issue, I ask them. And yes, I respect their wishes. I wouldn't stop writing about them altogether because they are a big part of my life. I would not take down my blog because it's a good outlet for me, and a wonderful way to keep track of what is happening, and as happened, in their life.
- If not, what are you doing to make sure they never find it? What if they do find it?
I know I've already answered this, but I do want to say that I have never hid my blog from them. Even when they were younger, they loved to look at the pictures. Especially, if they were in them.
- Do you think our kids will appreciate the archive of their childhood? Do you wish your parents had done the same?
Yes I do. They already enjoy it now. I have baby books, and kept a "handwritten" journal before I started blogging. They love to hear stories about when they were younger. Granted, when we reach the teen years, the opinions may shift, but I do believe that when they are older, and perhaps with children of their own, they will appreciate the history. My parents didn't have the opportunities we have today for making archives. Allot of what I remember is what I have been told and I have been trying to incorporate those memories into posts, so that I will have some sort of history for myself as well.
- Do you go back and re-read your past parenting milestones? Do you realize you forgot a lot?
I most definitely do! It's amazing how much you forget, especially all of the little details. When I look at all of the milestones, both minor and mind boggling, I am amazed at what we have all achieved.
- What about your children's friends/teachers/moms-of-friends? What if they found your blog? Do you tell your child not to tell anyone about it or are they free to talk about it? Do you worry their teachers or other parents will think it's weird?
I really don't tell my friends about my blog, or give the address to anyone. I can count on one hand, the number of friends that actually have the address. It's just simpler that way. My parent's already read it regularly, and that was tough enough to get used to. But hey, they loved me before I started blogging, and so far as I can tell, that hasn't changed. For the most part, they've already been told what I'm writing about.
I've never really understood the controversy about Mommybloggin. There is no shame in blogging about your children, or your role as their mother. I'm a professional woman, who loves her job outside the home. I'm able (though it is very hard at times) to balance the two roles simultaneously. And I would also like to think I am good performing both.
My children are a large part of my life. My family comes first, and they always will. What's wrong with writing about that?
What about you? What are your feeling regarding Mommybloggin? Even if you don't have children, I'd like to hear your opinion on the matter.
Comments
How did you get him to the dishes? LOL at singing...At least he is enjoying it...
I hope you get to see your Mom real soon!
I would answer all of those questions on blogging about the same as you did..
Have a wonderful day!
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Posted by: Raggedy at July 31, 2006 11:49 PM
I kept a written daily journal for over 20 years before I started using a blog to record my life and thoughts. My wife has always had free access to it. My grown children know I keep a journal but they only read the things I post on-line for now. I have no secrets but some things are private.
I have asked my children not to read my written journals till after Ginny and I are both dead.
I have also asked them to never read less than 50 pages at a time. This is because I don't want one of them to hit on a single day or two when I was upset with them; I want them to feel the overal tone of love and pride and if they read at least 50 pages, they are sure to find that.
About the only difference between the earlier written journals and the online blog is that I'm aware of someone reading over my shoulder, so to speak. Therefore I write less about sex and such than I used to and I now seldom use real names when talking about someone else. The kids say I should leave off the really great tasteful jokes I tell, but what do they know!
Posted by: john cowart at August 1, 2006 7:57 AM
Hmm this is definatly along the lines of my "honesty" posts..
It's good that you have a written log of milestones though, it's good to look back on even if the "kids" might cringe at it one day they'll be doing the same and well it will be good to talk about it with the grandkids one day (although that's a long while of yet). I know what you mean even although I only see my nephew like every other weekend he's most definatly part of my life, Uncles and Aunts have their part to play as well.. There are moments in life that need to be shared nay DEMAND to be shared so there is nothing wrong in sharing them..
Your right Family comes first :)
** Hugs to the Entire family, even your mom & dad (just as a thanks for you being here) **
G Dawg (as some people in WV now call me)
Posted by: Gopher at August 1, 2006 3:11 PM
