He is seven years older than I am so you can imagine the scenario when we were growing up. In my view, he was bossy. For that matter, he still is. But, if I were to examine it closer, I don't think it's so much him being bossy, but more, he is, and has always been, a take charge kind of guy. He is a veritable leader, who possesses skills to get things done, even in the most adverse of circumstances. I have to admire that in a person, even if I do resent it at times.

In fact, much to my chagrin, after I examined it closer, I resent it alot. I'm a 40 something mom of two. I have two step-children whom I helped raise, as well as my own two, who are mine, 24/7. I have a good, sturdy career, filled with vast experience in a wide variety of areas. I have a solid reputation. I've been married for seventeen years (this is his first marriage). I've been around the block more than a few times. I can hold my own in any given situation (just ask me, I'll tell you).

So I ask you this, my dear readers. Do I really need to sit back and let The Boss take charge? Perhaps that is not so much of a fair question. Perhaps I should ask myself (but I don't want to damnit), is he really "taking charge," or is he just trying to make sure that things happen?

We have completely different personalities. He needs to map things out, to have a schedule, where I tend to be more laid back. Perhaps some would call me lackadaisical (hi Mom!). It's not that either way is right, it's just who we are.

I think, after much self reflection, it's time I backed off a bit and realized that The Boss, and his "ways" are a good thing. There is a definite possibility that the two of us can co-exist, and get along.

Don't get me wrong, I know that there will always be friction between the two of us. But perhaps, this woman can back down enough to let a leader take the reigns from time to time. Because if I really look at it, what does it really matter? The goal is the same; we just take different paths to get there.