Hello, my name is Moogie. I have a pre-teen. And I don't understand her.
Does this sound familiar to you?
One of the great mysteries is how friendships come and go, in a whirlwind of emotion, heartache, and the everlasting "I can't believe that she did that I will never talk to her again or be her friend."
Oh, did I mention that they are friends again? The absolute best of buddies. On the phone together as much as possible. Tonight they are meeting up at the rink. Because they have so many details to discuss, and, oh, "what about that really cute new guy? I think he likes you."
My head is spinning most of the time these days. I'm positive that somewhere in the past, she must have suffered a great fall, and her brain stem has disconnected from her spinal chord and there is no visible sign of brain activity. I'm hoping that will heal itself.
It leaves me scratching my head. So much so that I have developed a bald spot. Look, right there, right on the top. See it? I'm so afraid to open my mouth, and give an opinion. Because, most likely it's wrong. Heaven help me but I don't remember ever being like that (Mom, it's time for you to leave the room now. I don't want to damage my reputation, ok?).
There are days when we battle incessantly, and sometimes, there are these wonderful breaks. Where we don't argue at all. Like when she's asleep.
Don't get me wrong. It's a wild and somewhat nauseous ride, but I don't want to get off of it. Unless of course, someone was to offer me an all expenses stay at a condo in Hawaii. I want to see how the story ends. And I want to see her married, and happy. And have children. You see where this is going.
And then there was this discussion we had the other day. She was frustrating me beyond belief. No matter what I said, it wasn't right. Just to back up a bit, she was grounded for the day, and was not happy with me. She was fairly convinced that I was an unfit mother, and living on the streets would be better than being with me.
So, we were having this discussion. She told me that "this girl" was always allowed to stay at the skating rink until it closed at midnight. Her mom lets her do anything."
I asked, "If she jumped off of the Golden Gate Bridge, would you follow her?"
She said, "Yes."
I said, "Well then, you're alot more stupid than I look."
Guess I showed her.
Comments
This post had me laughing! Not AT you, because I don't wish a pox upon my house! ;-)
I am not looking forward to puberty!
Posted by: Heather at October 14, 2005 08:19 PM
Oh Lord -- here it comes. I remember thinking these same things when my daughter was a preteen. Now she's a fulll-fledged demon teen. Cherish the confusion... it will seem so precious to look back upon.
Posted by: Robin at October 14, 2005 10:22 PM
And soon you'll have to factor in PMS. And, then, you'll both have it at the same time 'cause that's what 2 girls in the same house do...
Hang in there, Moogs. it just keeps getting more interesting.
Luckily, Grandma's got your back and the kid's!
Posted by: julie at October 14, 2005 10:32 PM
Starts Mantra chanting to calm you down....
Oh Boy, things are really gonna start to kick in now...
Be strong, actually drive her and her friend to the nearest "Golden Gate" like bridge and see if they'll jump off..
Tell "Jnr" that just because other girls get to stay late at the rink doesn't mean she can, explain to her all the horrible things that can happen and some times do.. you know what I mean here.. Don't scare her too much just enough to waken her up. Oh and if she says she's "smarter" than that, just laugh a little and say if your "smarter" than that what am I thinking, think what you haven't you done yet (make sure there is something that hasn't been done)
Or just threaten to post her to alaska or somewhere Not very warm.....
Posted by: Gopher at October 15, 2005 05:18 AM
Well... we can't provide a free condo, but if you ever make it here we can give you a tour and some fun with friends here in Hawai`i :)
Hang in there Moogie, this too shall pass, lol
Posted by: D Brooks at October 15, 2005 05:53 AM
*cringe*
Posted by: Dana at October 15, 2005 08:05 PM
I have a pre teen too. I give her advice, but all we can really hope is that they have some common sense.
Posted by: Ruth at October 16, 2005 02:06 AM
I don't think you ever win. Surviving is its own victory. ;)
-G
Posted by: Garrison Steelle at October 16, 2005 04:07 PM
I'm finding a lot of comfort in Queen Bees & Wanna Be's - It is helping me to see what it is my daughter is thinking. Of course we still do battle.....
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