The delectable demystifying divas are at it again over at my Feisty Sistah's place. They are exploring a topic for which I am sure there is no concrete answer.
What does a woman want? Why is it that my feeble brain automatically ended that sentence with "in a man?"
Skipping over the obvious "six foot two, eyes of blue," sexy, passionate and romatic response requires some deep thought and the ability to move out of the box.
In my younger days, it was all about the romance. I suppose that in the early stages of a relationship, the newness plays an integral part in the game. I find now that I really want someone who accepts me for who I am. They need to be patient and understanding. I have a seriously quick temper. It comes just as quick as it goes, so there is a need to be able to ride out the storm while the smoke is coming from my ears.
I want someone who is flexible, because, let's be honest, when you have children, the last person you need to be sharing your life with is someone who absolutely has to be on a fixed schedule.
I want someone I can be comfortable with. Whether we are talking, or whether we are just sitting together in silence. They should share some interests with me, but having other interests is an absolute must. We need to have our own things. Hey, that gives us alot more to talk about.
I want someone who understands just how important my job is to me, and realizes that the hours I keep can be long, and that business may take me to another part of the country from time to time. I need someone that, when this happens, I can trust with my children.
This man needs to realize that when I come home from work, or wherever, my first focus will be on my children. In knowing that, he will also know, that when all is said and done, it will be his turn, and he will have my full attention.
Holding hands, hugging, I love you...it's all part of the package. I need alot of that. Just knowing that he is there.
I've been married for nearly 17 years. We've had our share of ups and downs, and are now just slowly crawling out of a very deep pit. But that's what makes a marriage strong. That's what makes it last. I'm lucky enough to have a good percentage of what I want in a man in my marriage today. We take it one day at a time. The harder we work at it, the better it gets.
Comments
Thanks, Sistah!
Very well said.
All good points.
; )
Posted by: Christina at March 15, 2005 09:53 PM
The relationship I am in now is so different than my first marriage. What I have now is a person I can talk to about anything and everything. Someone who can discuss issues that arise and not run away from them. Same values, sames wants and desires when it comes to children and family. And best of all, someone who makes me laugh! We both learn from our mistakes, and fight fair and usually very adult like, at the table, and listening to the others point of view. It's not always easy, but we always work it out.
Posted by: Suzanne at March 16, 2005 05:54 PM
Hmm I'm a bloke so feel unable to compose a complete, tactful & concrete answer to the question "what a woman wants...." as the question is very open to interpretation and well I screwed up my last relationship so, now I'm just gonna shut up and pass on saying anymore..
Posted by: Gopher at March 16, 2005 08:14 PM
You women *expect* us to screw up...
/me runs and hides :p
Actually, I just wanted to pop in and say hi to Moogie ;)
I hope you're doing fine overthere and everything is well (including the two midget terrorists ;)
I'm back in #lobby btw. ;)
Posted by: Pointwood at March 17, 2005 06:47 PM